Monday, February 20, 2012

funeral

My grandmother and my grandfather back in the day.
My grandmother's obituary from the Corpus Christi Caller Times:
Catalina Toscano, a beloved wife, mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother went home to her heavenly father on February 13, 2012.
She was born in Corpus Christi, Texas, on April 29, 1920 to Florentine Trujillo and Sabino Armadillo ...
She lived in San Luis Potosi, Mexico during her young adult life, met and married her soul mate, Celso, and they returned to Corpus Christi to start a family.
She was active in her children's schools (P.T.A's) and active in her community and church, active in local politics (Was a block captain) and encouraged her family to vote and be responsible citizens.
She love (sic) gardening and traveling. She was light-hearted, friendly and was always smiling and quick to make friends. She was adored by her family and will be dearly missed ...
Published Thursday, February 16, 2012

I'll miss her.  My grandfather had already passed a few years ago and she was the last of all my grandparents.  She was a very giving person, a talented person, and a strong woman.  She raised seven, SEVEN, kids – including my mom.  Over the weekend I attended her funeral.

Naturally this got me thinking about my own death, and while I hope to live forever, science remains way behind where, as a child, I imagined it would be in 2012.  So I thought I'd write, here, what I would hope for after my passing; and if there's anything 3 years of law school taught me, it's that this blog post can serve as a legally sufficient will.

First, whatever organs can be donated to people who need them – please use them; Second, I want to be cremated; Third I don't want my funeral to be religious or involve religious ceremonies (though if individuals wish to pray that is perfectly fine, just don't bring in a priest or anything); Fourth – enough counting.

Not sure yet where my ashes should be spread.

I wouldn't want my funeral to be too somber – I think the song "You'll Never Walk Alone" would be great to play since it has a message of hope while acknowledging the challenges of life (and death); maybe some mariachi music and Arcade Fire.  The actual event would preferably be outside – a picnic would be good. The lesson of the event should be to make your time on earth count – try to change the world for the better – don't wait for some heaven in the afterlife (even if you think one exists) – we should all be working, fighting, struggling, for heaven on earth.

There should be dogs at my funeral to cheer people up. If anyone is allergic to dogs, they should be accommodated somehow; but not by eliminating dogs from the equation. Playful dogs would be best.

No fancy flower bouquets unless you pick the flowers yourself and arranged them yourself. If the funeral is in California and it is the right time of year, there are probably plenty of poppies and lilies around. Use those. If someone sends or brings store-bought flowers, that's fine; they just didn't get the memo; don't embarrass them or anything. If people want to do something – like people far away who can't attend the picnic – I think sending along food or drink would be great.

Those are my thoughts for now; and yes, I'm completely serious.

1 comment:

4johnny5 said...

heaven on earth. xo